(Hoffman Estates, IL USA)
What you have, lots of bars, parties, eating dinner in a restaurant and sitting at the bar instead of a table because he’s more at home there.
Goals and dreams are only to the extent of what is happening the next weekend.
St. Patrick’s Day and Fourth of July Parades turn into a drink fest at 10:00am in the morning and the rest of the day goes down from there.
Thanksgiving and Christmas can’t be celebrated without wine, even if he’s the only one drinking it.
Where ever you go you have to drive because he doesn’t have a driver’s license.
Vacation days are reserved for the days following Holidays so he can sleep it off the next day.
Heart to Heart talks are forgotten the next day, sometimes the whole phone call is. There is nothing that makes me cry more than him saying “did I talk to you last night”.
Talking in the morning to the man you love, talking after work to a 12 year old adolescent who thinks everything is a funny joke.
Having heart surgery, and he asks you if you will still be able to go to the Super Bowl Party, in 3 days.
Not being able to come and see you because he doesn’t drive, but always able to get a ride or take a cab to the bar.
So, why am I crying now that I asked him not to be a part of my life anymore?
By: Cathy Sacomano
I am a Mental Health Counselor who is licensed in both New York (LMHC) and North Carolina (LCMHC). I have been working in the Mental Health field since 2015. I have worked in a residential setting, an outpatient program and an inpatient addictions program. I began working in Long Island, NY and then in Guelph, Ontario after moving to Canada. I have since settled in North Carolina. I have experience working with various stages of addiction, depression, anxiety, mood disorders, trauma, stages of life concerns and relationship concerns.
I tend to use a person-centered approach which simply means that I meet you where you are and work collaboratively to help you identify and work towards accomplishing goals. I will often pull from CBT when appropriate. I do encourage use of mindfulness and meditation and practice these skills in my own life. I believe in treating everyone with respect, sensitivity and compassion.
I recognize that reaching out for help is hard and commend you for taking the first step. We have professionals available who would be happy to help you move closer to reaching your goals related to your drinking concerns. You may reach these professionals by calling 877-322-2694.