Dreaming and Driving

by Jeff T

Last night I dreamt, vividly, and woke with a start and a deep feeling of gratitude about what hadn't happened. In my dream I came out of a blackout to find myself behind the wheel of a car speeding down a two lane road. I had no idea how long I'd been driving, where I was coming from, or where I was headed. I even had to look to my right and then check the review mirror to see who else was in the car with me. In the front passenger seat was my partner, but in the back seat were two guys I had no recollection of ever meeting.

While I was trying desperately to put the pieces of my fragmented memories of the night together, looking for answers where there were none, the road we were traveling on merged into a wider four-lane highway. As I merged onto the new road I could see a bridge and the outskirts of a city I thought I recognized but it took me a moment to realize where I was ... I was fast approaching Kansas City, Missouri, from the Kansas side of the Missouri River ... someplace I hadn't been in over 25 years. As I came to this realization I turned to the other occupants of my car to ask how in the world we came to be in Kansas only to find that I was now the only person in the car.

This was the point that I woke up, back in my own room and, blinking to clear the sleep from my eyes, hit the night-light on my alarm clock to find that it was 3:30 AM (guess I was too late ... we always left the bars in Topeka and headed for the other side of the border because the bars on the other side of the river stayed open until 3:30 in the morning). I got out of bed to answer the call of nature and tried to make sense of my dream while I stood in my darkened bathroom taking care of business.

It slowly came to me that what I dreamt wasn't just a creation from the dark recesses of my booze-addled brain, rather it was a flash of memory, actually a combination of a number of memories, mixed and muddled as dreams are. It struck me how very fortunate I've been that for whatever damage my drinking has done, to myself and those I've cared for (and who've cared for me), at least I'd never taken another life. Considering how many times I'd driven after drinking, even when, as in my dream, I'd come out of a blackout to find myself behind the wheel of a car (which happened on more than one occasion), I have been damned fortunate, far more fortunate than I deserve.

How the hell did I get here in one piece? I'm not looking for an easy answer to that question ... just something to be mindful of as I move forward. With that I'll close for now.

This is me, another 24 hours sober.
Jeff T

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Feb 09, 2012
Thanks for the clarity.
by: Calvin

Jeff, it sound like you have it under control and that's what really matters most. Self-awareness brings about clarity and I appreciate the feedback about what you were trying to say. Be safe.

Feb 08, 2012
Wow ... next time actually read the post
by: Anonymous


Thanks for the dime-store psycho-babble ... but next time please read the entire post. As much as I appreciate your many (LESS THAN) helpful suggestions, I was recounting a DREAM (as in at night, asleep, in my own bed). I am SOBER and in a recovery program.

This post came about after a conversation in group where I recounted this and other DRINKING DREAMS that I've had since becoming SOBER. I wanted to know how many of my fellow recovering alcoholics had similar experiences with dreams/night terrors since embracing sobriety.

One of my fellow former inebriates said something that I found odd. He said that while you're still a drinking alcoholic you don't have drinking dreams ... it's only once you experience sobriety that your mind starts replaying those tapes.

So, Calvin, cheers to you! I raise my non-alcoholic beverage in salute as I fight the urge to give you a salute that, though inappropriate now, would have been my first response to your lack of reading comprehension when I was still an actively drinking alcoholic. Oh, wait, this conversation would never have started in the first place if I was still drinking because the post about 'DREAMING and Driving' (you see, a play on the phrase 'Drinking and Driving') would never have been written ... alcoholics still drinking DON'T HAVE drinking dreams.

All my best to you.
Jeff T

Jan 29, 2012
by: Calvin

As your hallucinations become more real they will eventually flood your mind even while you are wide awake. It is a self-induced psychosis. It sounds like you are close to the end and have a desire to take someone else with you by driving a car when you are intoxicated. My advice would be to turn in your drivers license, sell your car, prepare a will and advance directive, and say goodbye to any family or friends you might still have.

You do have another choice which is to stop poisoning yourself with alcohol but this would mean that you would have to face whatever 'demons' you have buried deep within your mind in a state of sobriety. At the end stages those voices you hear and images you see will bring about your demise. They are creations of your own mind and not real. You still have a choice. Best of luck.

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