Usually an alcoholic has been drinking for many years to reach the end stage of alcoholism and is now showing the long term effects of alcohol drinking. They are in the final of the alcoholism stages.
They now have a choice. Stop drinking or die.
Sounds simple, but many alcoholics no longer have the ability to choose and they may be suffering from alcoholism denial.
Alcohol has become their master, chronic alcoholism has become their life condition.
Usually, only a major crisis can snap the alcoholic out of his/her servitude and see what they have become, and that the future, with alcohol, is a bleak place indeed.
It would be unusual for the chronic alcoholic to display all these characteristics.
However, if three or more are evident then it is very likely that they are in the final stages of their disease.
Without wanting to sound like a pessimist, the odds are against anybody trying to get through to a chronic alcoholic are pretty low.
To have got to this stage a person will have generally rejected many offers of help and probably been through alcoholism treatment at least once. They will be so consumed by drink and all the resentment and guilt that comes with it.
Any approach will be a minefield and it might be better to consider a professional alcoholic intervention.
It is important to remember that if the individual does not want help then there is NOTHING that can be done. You can’t force an adult to stop drinking or undergo alcoholism treatment.
It is essential you don’t blame yourself if an offer of help is rejected by someone in end stage alcoholism.
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Deborah Morrow, M.S. Addiction Psychology, is the director of treatment programs for The Alcoholism Guide website. In her practice Deborah provides on-line coaching and support for those dependent on alcohol or who require other services such as relapse prevention or court mandated services. (Read More)
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