By Kayla Loibl | Last Edited: November 29, 2020 | 4 Sources
A functional alcoholic may seem to live a completely 'normal' life.
But it is only a matter of time before the signs of alcoholism appear and life unravels.
There is a myth (or is it wishful thinking?) that if you drink a lot but can go about life as normal then you must not be an alcoholic.
That is, if you manage to complete day to day tasks then your drinking is not an issue
This just isn't true.
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The definition of a functional alcoholic is somebody who displays signs of alcoholism (or at least some of them) but is able to live a 'normal' life.
They get up in the morning, have breakfast, go to work, put the kids to bed, play football on a Saturday, keep their partner happy......and so on. Everything is just fine...in their eyes at least.
Sorry to burst the bubble but, yes, you can function as an alcoholic and for quite some time. However, eventually, alcoholism progression will mean you won't be able to keep up the act anymore.
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The Functioning Alcoholic and Alcoholism Progression
Alcoholism is progressive. This means that is follows a definite path and goes through distinctive phases or alcoholism stages. The final stage is, unfortunately, death unless help is sought.
During the first two alcoholism stages, it is possible to cover up your excessive drinking but enter the final stages of alcoholism and this is just not an option anymore.
In end stage alcoholism you can no longer hide your alcoholic abuse. There is only so much drinking the body can take and the long term effects of alcoholism and alcohol abuse health effects will become very visible.
Anyway having a functioning life and a good life are not the same.
Why be a functional alcoholic when you can break your addiction forever and have a more fulfilling life? And....
.....you may be functioning at the moment but if you don't think about quitting drinking soon then you may well be dysfunctional not too long from now.
I don't want to preach but if you suspect you are (or someone you care about is) a functional alcoholic get help NOW before it is too late.
The Signs of a Functional Alcoholic
- You drink like you did when you were younger. Most people drink quite a bit when they are at college or in their late teens/early twenties. It is a rite of passage. Most people stop binge drinking when they get a job, settle down etc. The functional alcoholic doesn't. They still drink like a fish.
- You laugh about your drinking. It is a part of who you are. People in your social group also make jokes about it. It is a running joke. Sometimes you might get defensive, aggressive, or angry when the jokes get too much.
- You are generally the first one at the bar, the party, the drinks cabinet. The first two or three drinks go down fast. Sometimes you have drinks before you go out to get a head start on everybody else.
- Is drinking a large part of your life? Do you look forward to going out? Would you rather go to the bar than the cinema? Do you avoid going to places where drink isn't available? Are you a big organizer of after work drinks, parties etc.?
- You can drink most people under the table and you don't even get drunk (or at least don't look as if you do). Are you a 'happy drunk'?
- Do you sometimes have trembling hands? Have alcoholic blackouts? Suffer from anxiety when you haven't had a drink for a while?
- Are you proud of the fact that you can drink so much and still get up for work and lead a 'normal life'? Do you think you are immune to the addictive nature of alcohol?
If you recognize yourself in these then maybe it is time to take a look at your drinking habits
. That is, if you want to.
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Lead Writer/Reviewer : Kayla Loibl
Licensed Medical Health Professional
I am a Mental Health Counselor who is licensed in both New York (LMHC) and North Carolina (LCMHC). I have been working in the Mental Health field since 2015. I have worked in a residential setting, an outpatient program and an inpatient addictions program. I began working in Long Island, NY and then in Guelph, Ontario after moving to Canada. Read More
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