When I met my partner it soon became obvious that she had issues with alcohol but at that time I had no knowledge of the devastating effects this could bring.Now ,16years later,she needs support from carers due to brain injury and mild dementia.The person I knew hasn’t altogether disappeared ,however after waiting and hoping and fooling myself into believing(because I needed to) that one day she would come back,I finally realised it was never going to happen and this is how it will continue.Sometimes I feel angry, often scared :mostly though,I just miss her and she doesn’t even realise it -that we are together and I miss her.Alcohol is still glamourised in our society;young people still think its cool to use it indiscriminately;there’s nothing cool nor glamourous about
watching the woman you used to go cycling with ,staggering to use a commode because her nervous system is damaged beyond repair.If alcohol was introduced into society now it would be a class A drug-because that is exactly what it is. I am so angry that our lives have been wrecked by a substance that you can pick up with your bread and milk.
I am a Mental Health Counselor who is licensed in both New York (LMHC) and North Carolina (LCMHC). I have been working in the Mental Health field since 2015. I have worked in a residential setting, an outpatient program and an inpatient addictions program. I began working in Long Island, NY and then in Guelph, Ontario after moving to Canada. I have since settled in North Carolina. I have experience working with various stages of addiction, depression, anxiety, mood disorders, trauma, stages of life concerns and relationship concerns.
I tend to use a person-centered approach which simply means that I meet you where you are and work collaboratively to help you identify and work towards accomplishing goals. I will often pull from CBT when appropriate. I do encourage use of mindfulness and meditation and practice these skills in my own life. I believe in treating everyone with respect, sensitivity and compassion.
I recognize that reaching out for help is hard and commend you for taking the first step. We have professionals available who would be happy to help you move closer to reaching your goals related to your drinking concerns. You may reach these professionals by calling 877-322-2694.
Aug 16, 2021
Your words, I am sure ring true for a lot of people – I found out long ago that getting angry only hurts you and does more harm than good.