by Kathleen Wisbey
(Perth west australia)
I used to wonder if he had a problem with drink when he was younger being around 17-19 yrs of age as one of his friends alerted me to his habits, not in an unfriendly manner, but I remember the day and time when I was told - a mother never forgets such things
I remember one Saturday afternoon I went to the pub to get him out - he wasn't my husband but my son - I always figured there were better things to do than be at a pub and waste your money there.
At that stage of his life I wasn' t particularly worried just trying to instill some rules. He had friends and he went out, he had a job and drove a car. I figured one day he might get married and have kids. He moved out of our home like most teens but not until he was around nearly 20 yrs old with a couple of mates and his sister. We celebrsted his 21st as a family out and I never saw anything to cause me worry - he had his 18th birthday at home as well nothing really bad happened, and yes the kids were smoking pot - which i didn' t approve of either - that was a big worry.
He moved in and out of places to live and shared with different people. He had a good job and in one of those jobs (after he finished his apprenticeship as a heavy duty mechanic) hurt his back - I guess at this stage he was living on his own. I noticed a few empty bottles around but his place seemed reasonably clean. But to me he wasn't a drinker that would make you worry.
Over the years he helped both his sister and brother through their rough patches and growing-up periods - he was always there for them. On some ocassions I noticed he was more aggressive and rather controlling but I know in my heart he would pay for their bills if they asked and he dearly loved his brother and sister - he was and is a good brother in that way. He also joined the mining industry where the money he was getting paid was a lot more - this is where I believe the binge drinking and out of control drinking started and since then I notice he needs bottles of liquor before going to bed. Incidentally I tried to tell him that if he came back home to live he would have to leave the drink alone, but my voice and conditions went out the window - to me it shows no respect.
Over the years we have seen him go from a somewhat fit person to a larger in stature person in weight - we cook his meals and sometimes do his washing - it is at this stage of our lives as we are older now (my husband recently having a serious operation) would dearly love to see him move into his own place - he took over our home and shed and simply thinks its ok.
He is very generous but he wants to pick arguments when he gets drunk. I have gone to seek help but am not the drinker. I have put self-help leaflets on the fridge door and I have said over and over its your health.
I am worried about as we get older. I do not look forward to his mental and physical state as he tries to control me. I just want some peace in our lives. To this day I do not understand why he drinks.
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