by Marcia
(Swansea,MA)
HI! I have been seeing someone who has been clean for 8 yrs. He has a good job and attends meetings regularly. I met him Ballroom dancing as we both enjoy it. We have gone out quite a few times together outside of Ballroom dancing. Have noticed a certain behavior and don't know if this is a red flag. I have never dealt with an addictive person in my life at all - Married 35 yrs and my husband died of cancer 2 1/2 yrs ago. We raised 5 children together; so this is all new to me being 60 and single!!
Yesterday he invited me to have dinner w/him. My doctor texted me before AL and I met for dinner and I called her, but she was unable to talk at that moment. Before we sat down to eat I explained that she may be calling back. Well of course she called DURING dinner and I took the call as she had a medical issue going on.
When I got off the phone my dinner was on the counter and the coffee disposed of. The TV was turned off and he was reading his E-reader!! I sat next to him and he said I'm reading now. So I went to my car and got my Bible out to read while he read his E-reader. I addressed what was wrong and Al said he ate his whole meal by himself and I ruined the day. I could go home now...I refused because I wanted some resolve. He told me I was rude to take the call and left him alone eating! He even asked what kind of Bible I read to do that!!
After I thought about it I decided it was bad manners to take the call and apologized, but was concerned how he reacted and NOT responded. I told him also that I read the same Christian Bible that he read and it speaks of forgiveness when someone asks for it. I also told him we both come from different walks of life. He has been single for 58 years and knows nothing about family or being a "MOM" like I don't know what its like to have had an addiction. He saw my point and was okay afterwards. I stayed for a few hours and we had good conversation after that. RED FLAG???>>>I think he felt rejected or it was like a little boy appeared and didn't get my undivided attention and he didn't like it one bit...Is this a personality insecurity??? Just don't feel like this is "normal" behavior for most people
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