Single mom deciding to stay with Police Captain boyfriend.
Help me please.
I am a 45 year old single mother of three young children. About a year ago I met a wonderful handsome Police Captain man on a popular dating site. We had instant chemistry and immediately took ourselves off of the site. We dated on and off for almost a year. He drinks a LOT. I can't remember one date that didn't involve drinking. I enjoy a glass of wine or two and don't have a problem. But, when I'm with him the main focus of our dates when we don't have our children, center in his backyard, "grilling dinner", listening to music and drinking. Usually the process takes HOURS. I ofter find that before I know it I've drank an entire bottle of wine. I don't like that, don't like the feeling the next day and feel guilty. Note that I don't do this when we have our children.
He starts with several beers and then switches to whiskey mixed with soda. This happens even when he's by himself. I can tell because he slurs his words on the phone.
I broke up with him last night because I don't want to enable him or drink that much for myself. His response was well your having a drink an hour so it's not a big deal.
He's my best friend, handsome, sweet to me, never has been mean and I miss him. Please share any advice with me, I'm lonely and miss him. Am I doing the right thing by leaving?