Why is he so Abusive and Nasty to me? He Drinks 1 Litre Vodka

I need help to get away from him, I don't want to be here anymore, he lies, manipulates, blames me for everything. I'm a team-leader and I work hard, but he says I do nothing. I'm so low.



Yes, it sounds like you do need to get away from him, but why do you need help? Is he violent or threaten violence towards you if you try to leave him? if this is the case then you need to inform your local police department, if this is not an option then you have to get out of the house and find a safe place to go. This could be a friend's house, the house of a relative, a refuge anywhere that he cannot get to you.

If he is not physically violent toward you and you find it hard to leave him, then you need to ask yourself why it is you are staying with him. What advantage is there to you if you stay with him? Once you can answer this question then you will find it easier to leave him.

Many wives of alcoholics stay with their abusive husbands (verbal and emotional abuse) because over the years they have lost all their self-esteem due to the environment they have lived in. If you are constantly belittled, blamed for everything and generally made to feel useless then, over time, you will start to believe that, yes you are worthless and, so the thinking goes, if you're worthless then you get all that you deserve and anyway, even if you did leave him nobody else would want you. So many women stay in these relationships, believing it is better to be abused and in a relationship than to be alone. It doesn't have to be this way.