Alcoholic denial is a powerful and puzzling symptom of alcohol dependence
Denial is one of the more baffling characteristics, not just of alcohol dependency but all addictions.
In alcoholic denial, the alcoholic will continually state that they do not have a problem with drinking in spite of displaying many or all of the symptoms of an alcoholic.
Everybody around the alcohol dependent knows they have a problem and yet the person will still deny they have an issue with drinking.
He (or she) will use such excuses as....
- It is everybody else's fault. The blame game.
- The only reason he or she drinks is because of the constant nagging from people about his drinking.
- He or she could stop drinking any time.
- His or her drinking effects nobody except himself. He is more than happy to live with these effects.
- Any trouble that he or she gets into is not because of drinking although it is obvious to everyone else that it is.
Sometimes the denial is unbelievable.
Why does the alcoholic deny he has a problem?
Whenever your mind finds information threatening then it will try and ignore that information. It does this to protect itself.
It is a common part of the grieving process. When someone close to you dies then initially most people deny it. People continue to do this even when they have seen the body and been to the funeral.
... life without that person is too painful to contemplate.
...deny that person is dead.
And so it is with alcoholic denial.
Life without drink is too scary to deal with
. Deep down most alcoholics know they need treatment for alcoholism
. But they deny they have a problem because they cannot imagine a life without alcohol.
Their body is dependent on alcohol, life without drink is a threat
. Therefore the alcoholic justifies their behavior, minimizes their drinking
and blames everything but the drink for their predicament.
And so the most rational people adopt the most illogical responses to their problem. They have their 'heads in the sand'.
It is often the drinker himself or herself who is the last person to realize that he or she is an alcoholic.
It often takes a major crisis e.g.........
.........for the individual to realize they are addicted.
These are big crises and it would be far better for the alcoholic to get help for their drinking
before they do major damage, and sometimes irreparable damage
, to themselves, their lives or to the people they care about.
Alcoholism denial can also be fueled by the enabling behavior
of those around the alcoholic.
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